Dear Conscious Design Magazine

Through the years I have learned that time can heal a broken heart, and
lots of inner work! I thought these struggles were behind me until I had a
recent experience with my son. He woke me up at three in the morning
in tears and pain, devastated by a text message from his girlfriend ending
the relationship. Not only do they not communicate eye to eye anymore, but
they develop entire relationships via phone texting and online messaging!
He cannot eat, sleep, or function. Besides the inner work of support,
counseling, and mentoring. Is there anything else I can do?
He is asking for help.

Parent CK, California

Dear Parent,

Love is such a powerful tool, a test and a quest for all mankind. As a parent of four I have often wanted to have the power to
end my children's difficulties and pain. You are taking some fabulous steps in recommending counseling and offering support. Bodywork, Massage, Crystal & Stone Therapy, and Reiki are also healing and releasing. I can recommend some great
additional strategies, powerful and yet often overlooked, that will clear the air and move out negative energy.

At first, I would not recommend removing all pictures of the ex from the room, as your son will probably seek to hold onto the hope of the relationship reuniting. This is a first layer and once the healing process begins, he will make that decision on his own which will set his intention and build empowerment. The more he does himself, the quicker the healing will take place.

Let's begin this process by working on his bedroom.

Start with the room:
Strip the bed. Completely change all the bedding, pillowcases, and sheets.
Flip the mattress.
Clear as much clutter as possible, shifting energy and creating flow.
Open windows to create air flow. Visualize negative going out, and positive flowing in.
Use a space clearing technique such as sage, drumming and/or sprays to clear out the old. Re-balance with a soft bell or crystal sound bowl.
Check the artwork. Remove lonely landscapes or storms.
Bring in artwork that supports his talents and dreams and brings him joy.
A reminder of the "Bigger picture" will help to open his heart up.

Check the relationship corner of the room - southwest or back left corner from the bedroom door. Look for anything broken, or a single item. Add a symbol of two in this area, such as two rose quartz crystals. Keep a light on in this area for enlightenment.

The Body:

Use colors and scents to support his healing process. Orange will heal grief and help release the pain and attachment to the emotion of the relationship. Have your son wear an article of clothing right next to his skin in the color of orange. An orange tee shirt will work well. Tangerine and Orange oils can also be used on the body.

The outer layer of clothing can be coordinated in a color that best helps his external energy to help him function in the world and to get through the day. He can bring in a touch of red for survival and courage. Too much red will activate anger, so bring a conscious awareness into the color choices. If he is scattered at work or school he may need some earth tones for grounding. Anger and argumentative energy calls for some pink. Green is always fabulous for healing and growth. Use caution with too much green if there is a large jealousy issue in the relationship. Blue can bring too much melancholy. Once your son connects with the power of color as a support tool, he will be empowered in his choices.

Overall we will:
Move the energy and clear out the old.
Reset the space with joy and intention.
Check the room to remove any negative symbols.
Bring in positive artwork and colors.
Use colors and scents for healing grief (orange and tangerine) close to the body.
Use colors and symbols to create awareness, growth, movement, and encouragement.

Wishing you both healing!
Conscious Design Magazine,
Renae Jensen